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Mental Freedom

by John Nolan
16th May 202517th May 2025

Mental freedom involves liberation from the dictation of your thoughts, allowing you to choose how to respond to your inner experience and the world. It is achieved not by controlling or eliminating unwanted thoughts and feelings, but by learning to relate to them differently through practices like mindfulness and acceptance. Key strategies include paying non-judgemental attention to the present moment, seeing thoughts as separate from reality, accepting and making space for difficult emotions, challenging unhelpful thinking patterns, and committing to actions aligned with your values. Cultivating self-awareness, self-compassion, and a supportive inner voice are also vital. The benefits are extensive, including reduced suffering, increased positive emotions, clarity on values, greater control over your actions (rather than your feelings), reduced stress, enhanced mental flexibility, improved relationships with yourself and your inner experience, and ultimately, a happier and more vital life where you are not defined by your challenges but are empowered to move towards what matters.

How to retrain your anxious brain

by John Nolan
26th December 20247th March 2025

To retrain an anxious brain, it’s important to understand that anxiety is a complex response involving different parts of the brain, especially the amygdala and the cortex. The amygdala is responsible for the fight, flight, or freeze response, while the cortex handles thoughts, logic, and planning. Retraining your brain involves using the principle of neuroplasticity,… Read More »How to retrain your anxious brain

Why willpower alone is insufficient

by John Nolan
21st December 202422nd January 2025

It’s great that you’re looking into how to make lasting changes, and it’s important to understand that willpower is not enough. Let’s explore why relying on willpower isn’t enough and what you can do instead by developing good habits. The Problem With Willpower It’s not a reliable resource: You might think that if you just… Read More »Why willpower alone is insufficient

Why Willpower Is Not Enough

by John Nolan
28th November 20194th March 2025

Consider this very familiar scenario: someone makes a decision to start the New Year by putting a new healthy habit in place. A few weeks later, and it’s been forgotten. Perhaps you are one of those rare people that simply follows through with everything that they commit to? So what goes wrong? Generally, when people… Read More »Why Willpower Is Not Enough

Approaches to Change: NLP vs. Traditional and Modern Methods18th May 2025
Traditional therapeutic approaches often focus on exploring the underlying causes and history of problems, sometimes requiring significant time. Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), conversely, was developed by studying patterns of excellence and focuses on the structure of a person's thoughts, language, and behaviour – the 'how' rather than the 'why'. This focus on the mechanics of subjective experience, combined with techniques designed to access subconscious processes, establish outcomes, and empower the individual by highlighting their control over their internal states, can contribute to faster and potentially more lasting changes. NLP offers specific techniques like anchoring, timeline therapy, reframing, and belief change to facilitate rapid shifts in perspective and behaviour. Its principles and techniques are widely applied in modern fields such as coaching, where they are used to improve communication, understand client patterns, set goals, and motivate action. While NLP's focus on outcomes and linguistic precision aligns with some principles of Solution-Focused Therapy, the sources do not explicitly detail an integration. Furthermore, the provided material does not describe how NLP is integrated into Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, presenting ACT as a distinct approach focused on acceptance, mindfulness, values, and committed action.
Mental Freedom16th May 2025
Mental freedom involves liberation from the dictation of your thoughts, allowing you to choose how to respond to your inner experience and the world. It is achieved not by controlling or eliminating unwanted thoughts and feelings, but by learning to relate to them differently through practices like mindfulness and acceptance. Key strategies include paying non-judgemental attention to the present moment, seeing thoughts as separate from reality, accepting and making space for difficult emotions, challenging unhelpful thinking patterns, and committing to actions aligned with your values. Cultivating self-awareness, self-compassion, and a supportive inner voice are also vital. The benefits are extensive, including reduced suffering, increased positive emotions, clarity on values, greater control over your actions (rather than your feelings), reduced stress, enhanced mental flexibility, improved relationships with yourself and your inner experience, and ultimately, a happier and more vital life where you are not defined by your challenges but are empowered to move towards what matters.
ACT or CBT for anxiety?15th May 2025
ACT and CBT offer distinct approaches to addressing anxiety. CBT often focuses on identifying and challenging maladaptive thoughts and reducing symptoms by altering thought content and structure. It also utilises exposure to counter avoidance. ACT, conversely, views avoidance and control efforts as key problems that paradoxically worsen suffering. Its goal is not symptom reduction but helping clients live a full, valued life by fostering psychological flexibility. ACT employs defusion to change the relationship with thoughts rather than disputing them and promotes acceptance and willingness to experience internal sensations and emotions fully, often using mindfulness and exposure techniques reframed within an acceptance context. While CBT is seen as a traditional behavioural/cognitive approach, ACT is considered a newer wave that integrates some CBT techniques within a broader framework centred on acceptance, mindfulness, values, and committed action.
Rewiring the Anxious Brain: Techniques and the Role of the Havening Therapist14th May 2025
Rewiring the anxious brain leverages the brain's capacity for neuroplasticity to change its responses to anxiety. Anxiety is understood to involve the amygdala and cortex pathways. Techniques targeting the amygdala, such as exposure therapy, relaxation, exercise, and Havening, aim to modify emotional memories and threat responses through experience and direct neurological intervention. Techniques targeting the cortex, like cognitive restructuring and mindfulness, focus on changing anxious thoughts, interpretations, and awareness. Other approaches such as NLP, SFBT, Hypnotherapy, and Neurofeedback also contribute to this process by addressing subconscious factors, promoting solution-focused thinking, conditioning relaxation responses, or directly altering brainwave patterns. A Havening therapist is particularly integral to this process by facilitating amygdala depotentiation through techniques like Havening and guiding clients in self-practices such as CPR for the Amygdala, enabling effective and controlled healing of trauma and building resilience. The goal is to build new neural pathways that resist anxiety and allow individuals to live more fully according to their values.
Reasons for Professionals and Senior Management Seeking Private Anxiety Treatment13th May 2025
Many professional people and senior management seek anxiety treatment, often in private settings, due to the severe impact anxiety has on their careers, performance, and relationships. They may seek effective and tailored solutions beyond temporary symptom relief, favouring approaches that focus on performance, well-being, and client control. Stigma, embarrassment, and the need for privacy to address what can feel like a secret problem are significant motivators for choosing private treatment. They may also be looking for alternative approaches if previous attempts at managing anxiety, particularly through avoidance, have proven costly and ineffective.