You didn’t choose your anxiety; it’s something your brained learned when you weren’t watching.
Just like you didn’t choose your original accent. However, you may have chosen to change your accent – is it possible to change your anxious brain in the same way?
Anxiety is a collection of mental habits your brain learned while you were not looking. You can “learn to unlearn” those mental behaviours that lead to anxiety, and develop new habitual thinking patterns that lead you to calm, confidence and resilience.
Could changing your brain’s default mental habits be of help to you?
What you need to know is that you are not alone in what you’re going through. Because so many people have their lives restricted by anxiety, a huge amount of knowledge and skill has been developed to help people like you to get past these difficulties.
As a private therapist and coach of over 30 years, I have been helping people regain control of their life through a variety of approaches. Over the years I have added many tools and techniques to my portfolio of skills, including:
- Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
- Behaviour change methods
- Havening techniques®
- Memory reconsolidation therapy
and I’m adding new skills whenever research in science shows them to be effective.
Over the last 15 years, scientists have discovered and documented the details of brain activity in individuals struggling with anxiety, as well as developing a good understanding of how to make lasting change. This new knowledge has significantly improved how coaches and therapists are able to help our clients.
How you can best benefit from coaching, counselling, and therapy
If the solution to your difficulties were simple or obvious to you, you would already have done it. So, some professional help would probably be of benefit to you.
Regardless of how we label our sessions together, the disciplines of anxiety coaching, anxiety counselling, and anxiety therapy are beginning to merge. By applying the most scientific evidence-based approaches, we can work together to identify what is happening in your mind and brain, and then find the best ways for you to make changes.
I will help you to apply the strategies, techniques, and tools necessary for your individual situation. Together we’ll match your life experiences together with the latest research-based tools I can teach you.
To ensure the solutions fit well into your life, our sessions will be a team effort to discover which methods are most appropriate for you. By employing such a collaborative approach, you will be enabled to get where you want to be more quickly, and more effectively. Not only that; research shows that this approach leads to faster and more permanent improvements for clients.
Possible benefits to you of our sessions together include:
- A better, more precise understanding of how anxiety works within your head, and how you can change or manage the mental processes.
- Learning how to successfully identify any possible triggers that contribute to your stress, panic attacks, or anxiety, and reprogramming your brain to respond differently to them.
- Removing the emotional sting from previously traumatic or excessively stressful memories., and making them less invasive in your life.
- Understanding methods that aid in the complete removal of triggers, or otherwise lessen their influence.
- Personalising effective strategies to keep yourself grounded during panic attacks, stress, or even excessive anxiety.
- Learning to implement various strategies to reduce present stress levels, as well as an overall reduction in the occurrence of panic attacks and anxiety.
- Improved sleep patterns.
- Better personal and professional relationships.
- Improved ability to remain focused and productive.
- A set of tools tailored especially for your circumstances, life, and goals.
How I can help You to reduce your anxiety symptoms.
There are a variety of symptoms associated with stress and anxiety, which can be improved with the private therapy sessions I offer. From reducing the occurrence of triggers, to discovering better coping methods, together we can work to improve issues such as:
- Sleep problems.
- Feeling irritable, or constantly overwhelmed.
- Difficulty focusing, concentrating, or even communicating.
- Hopelessness surrounding the life circumstances of today, and tomorrow.
- An overwhelming sense of doom or dread.
- Constantly avoiding people or situations that contribute to anxiety triggers.
- Struggling to connect with others in a meaningful way.
- Physical symptoms such as digestive problems, or even body aches (commonly associated with stress or anxiety).
- Noticing an increase of defensiveness in those around you (you can be unwittingly causing this)
- Feeling as though you are “surrounded by idiots” or incompetent individuals (it might not be them, but how you’re thinking of them)
These improvements happen because you will be changing your thinking patterns and your automatic responses to situations, people, or your own emotions.
What exactly is anxiety?
Within our brain, anxiety works as a complex set of processes which evolved to keep us safe. The feeling of anxiety significantly increases our levels of focus and vigilance, and further motivates us to attempt to escape threatening situations, using a variety of methods. However, this mechanism can become too sensitive or overactive, and that’s when it causes us problems. You may begin to feel anxious at the idea of feeling anxious, or even experience panic attacks concerning future events.
It is this excessive anxiety that is the major problem for most people and for 30 years I have been helping people to understand and overcome this.
Should you consider getting help for your anxiety?
If you answer yes to more than 3 of the following questions, please reach out to me – I may well be able to help you.
- Is your anxiety impacting your professional relationships?
- Do you spend a lot of time worrying?
- Are you feeling increasingly overwhelmed?
- Do you feel disconnected from people you consider important?
- Do you find yourself avoiding certain people or situations simply because you are concerned with how you might feel?
- Are you experiencing an increased level of negative self talk?
- Do you suffer from irrational fears?
- Are you suffering from panic attacks?
- Are you turning to excessive alcohol use, or recreational drugs to improve how you feel?
- Are you getting inexplicable physical symptoms such as headaches, digestive problems, rapid heartbeat, or sweaty palms?
- Do you get a feeling of impending doom, especially if you don’t do something?
What’s it like to work with an anxiety specialist?
There is no “one size fits all” approach to anxiety treatment. When a client reaches out to me, we begin by going through distinct phases.
Phase 1: usually the first few sessions.
We work together to identify the appropriate strategies, and effective tools to reduce the impact anxiety, panic attacks, and stress have on your life. Some of the benefits you may experience include:
- Feeling better.
- Regaining control of your life.
- Living life on your terms.
- Development of core tools tailored to your specific needs and circumstances.
We’ll focus on identifying your strong emotions, and guiding you to be more resilient and resourceful. This will help you to have a better sense of control whenever these emotions occur.
With my anxiety help, everything is customised to your own situation. These are a few of the things we might discover together:
- Heightened awareness of how anxiety works within your head. This prevents anxiety from continuing as an unruly, scary monster. New techniques and tools will enable you to regain control of your life.
- Eliminating disruptive patterns of thinking or behaviour (such as bad habits) which may contribute to your bad feelings. We will learn how to replace those negative habits with positive practices instead.
- The development of core building blocks of resilience, taking advantage of your own basic mental activities so that they fit easily into your life.
- Begin building a vision of your own obtainable future. Simply ridding yourself of your own anxiety is not enough to provide you with a sustainable, rewarding life. To ensure that you head in the direction of where you want to be, you’ll be able to put positive changes into place, and move beyond your current difficulties.
Phase 3: Ongoing for as long as You choose.
Depending on your own circumstances, needs, and overall personality, we’ll cover a wide range of topics. These might include:
- Troubleshooting various circumstances that may have been overlooked in the earlier phases. You are far more likely to reach your goals of lasting benefits if you remain engaged in this phase.
- Starting to implement approaches and strategies to reduce the severity and sensitivity of your flight-or-fight response. This will lower its overall frequency and intensity.
- An improved ability to regulate various emotional states, to enable you to continue functioning and living life normally.
- Discovering how to be more optimistic and positive, to tap into your future resilience. You may not even realise that it’s possible to learn and maintain these mindsets.
The next step
Please contact me if you know it’s time to make a change for the better.
Online and Telephone Sessions.
Coaches, therapists, and counsellors have needed to find better ways of helping their clients during this pandemic. This has led to many of us working either on the phone or online services like Skype or Zoom.
Many of my clients say this has brought significant benefits to them
- Previously people searched for someone geographically local to them. Now they can find the most appropriate person to work with, wherever they are in the country.
- There is no travel time, which could have meant that an appointment took up a large chunk of the day. Now you just need to find the time for the session itself.
My clients come to me in order to make changes, changes in their lives outside of the practice room. When sessions are in a place they know, we can make sure that what we’re doing fits with the real situation, helping changes to happen quicker and more sustainably.