Behaviour Change

Approaches to Change: NLP vs. Traditional and Modern Methods

by John Nolan
18th May 2025

Traditional therapeutic approaches often focus on exploring the underlying causes and history of problems, sometimes requiring significant time. Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), conversely, was developed by studying patterns of excellence and focuses on the structure of a person’s thoughts, language, and behaviour – the ‘how’ rather than the ‘why’. This focus on the mechanics of subjective experience, combined with techniques designed to access subconscious processes, establish outcomes, and empower the individual by highlighting their control over their internal states, can contribute to faster and potentially more lasting changes. NLP offers specific techniques like anchoring, timeline therapy, reframing, and belief change to facilitate rapid shifts in perspective and behaviour. Its principles and techniques are widely applied in modern fields such as coaching, where they are used to improve communication, understand client patterns, set goals, and motivate action. While NLP’s focus on outcomes and linguistic precision aligns with some principles of Solution-Focused Therapy, the sources do not explicitly detail an integration. Furthermore, the provided material does not describe how NLP is integrated into Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, presenting ACT as a distinct approach focused on acceptance, mindfulness, values, and committed action.

Coaching for Overwhelm

by John Nolan
7th May 2025

Coaching for overwhelm supports individuals experiencing distress due to excessive demands, information, or pressure. It shifts the focus from the problem’s origins to building effective solutions and helps clients understand how their responses contribute to their overwhelmed state. Key strategies involve increasing self-awareness, embracing acceptance and mindfulness of internal experiences, using specific techniques to manage thoughts and emotions, taking intentional action aligned with values, setting boundaries, and learning to confront challenges and difficult emotions directly. The aim is to cultivate more flexible and effective responses, enabling individuals to live with less stress and greater fulfillment.

Strategies for Transforming Habits to Cultivate Mental Freedom

by John Nolan
6th May 2025

Strategies for habit change, particularly when addressing anxiety, involve a fundamental shift away from trying to control or avoid uncomfortable internal experiences towards accepting them. This process is underpinned by understanding unwanted habits, such as avoidance, and their role in perpetuating distress. Key approaches include increasing awareness of habit patterns through techniques like mapping and journaling, cultivating acceptance and willingness to experience difficult thoughts and feelings, learning to defuse from unhelpful thinking patterns, and engaging in mindfulness to stay present. Critically, it involves confronting avoided situations (exposure) and taking committed action aligned with personal values and goals. Supportive strategies like assertiveness, healthy lifestyle choices, conscious questioning, and self-compassion are also important. By changing habits of struggle and avoidance and building new habits of acceptance and value-driven action, individuals gain greater psychological flexibility and choice, leading to mental freedom. This freedom allows them to live a life guided by what matters most, reducing suffering and struggle, increasing well-being, building confidence, navigating challenges effectively, and ultimately thriving.

Approaches to Change: NLP vs. Traditional and Modern Methods18th May 2025
Traditional therapeutic approaches often focus on exploring the underlying causes and history of problems, sometimes requiring significant time. Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), conversely, was developed by studying patterns of excellence and focuses on the structure of a person's thoughts, language, and behaviour – the 'how' rather than the 'why'. This focus on the mechanics of subjective experience, combined with techniques designed to access subconscious processes, establish outcomes, and empower the individual by highlighting their control over their internal states, can contribute to faster and potentially more lasting changes. NLP offers specific techniques like anchoring, timeline therapy, reframing, and belief change to facilitate rapid shifts in perspective and behaviour. Its principles and techniques are widely applied in modern fields such as coaching, where they are used to improve communication, understand client patterns, set goals, and motivate action. While NLP's focus on outcomes and linguistic precision aligns with some principles of Solution-Focused Therapy, the sources do not explicitly detail an integration. Furthermore, the provided material does not describe how NLP is integrated into Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, presenting ACT as a distinct approach focused on acceptance, mindfulness, values, and committed action.
Mental Freedom16th May 2025
Mental freedom involves liberation from the dictation of your thoughts, allowing you to choose how to respond to your inner experience and the world. It is achieved not by controlling or eliminating unwanted thoughts and feelings, but by learning to relate to them differently through practices like mindfulness and acceptance. Key strategies include paying non-judgemental attention to the present moment, seeing thoughts as separate from reality, accepting and making space for difficult emotions, challenging unhelpful thinking patterns, and committing to actions aligned with your values. Cultivating self-awareness, self-compassion, and a supportive inner voice are also vital. The benefits are extensive, including reduced suffering, increased positive emotions, clarity on values, greater control over your actions (rather than your feelings), reduced stress, enhanced mental flexibility, improved relationships with yourself and your inner experience, and ultimately, a happier and more vital life where you are not defined by your challenges but are empowered to move towards what matters.
ACT or CBT for anxiety?15th May 2025
ACT and CBT offer distinct approaches to addressing anxiety. CBT often focuses on identifying and challenging maladaptive thoughts and reducing symptoms by altering thought content and structure. It also utilises exposure to counter avoidance. ACT, conversely, views avoidance and control efforts as key problems that paradoxically worsen suffering. Its goal is not symptom reduction but helping clients live a full, valued life by fostering psychological flexibility. ACT employs defusion to change the relationship with thoughts rather than disputing them and promotes acceptance and willingness to experience internal sensations and emotions fully, often using mindfulness and exposure techniques reframed within an acceptance context. While CBT is seen as a traditional behavioural/cognitive approach, ACT is considered a newer wave that integrates some CBT techniques within a broader framework centred on acceptance, mindfulness, values, and committed action.
Rewiring the Anxious Brain: Techniques and the Role of the Havening Therapist14th May 2025
Rewiring the anxious brain leverages the brain's capacity for neuroplasticity to change its responses to anxiety. Anxiety is understood to involve the amygdala and cortex pathways. Techniques targeting the amygdala, such as exposure therapy, relaxation, exercise, and Havening, aim to modify emotional memories and threat responses through experience and direct neurological intervention. Techniques targeting the cortex, like cognitive restructuring and mindfulness, focus on changing anxious thoughts, interpretations, and awareness. Other approaches such as NLP, SFBT, Hypnotherapy, and Neurofeedback also contribute to this process by addressing subconscious factors, promoting solution-focused thinking, conditioning relaxation responses, or directly altering brainwave patterns. A Havening therapist is particularly integral to this process by facilitating amygdala depotentiation through techniques like Havening and guiding clients in self-practices such as CPR for the Amygdala, enabling effective and controlled healing of trauma and building resilience. The goal is to build new neural pathways that resist anxiety and allow individuals to live more fully according to their values.
Reasons for Professionals and Senior Management Seeking Private Anxiety Treatment13th May 2025
Many professional people and senior management seek anxiety treatment, often in private settings, due to the severe impact anxiety has on their careers, performance, and relationships. They may seek effective and tailored solutions beyond temporary symptom relief, favouring approaches that focus on performance, well-being, and client control. Stigma, embarrassment, and the need for privacy to address what can feel like a secret problem are significant motivators for choosing private treatment. They may also be looking for alternative approaches if previous attempts at managing anxiety, particularly through avoidance, have proven costly and ineffective.